This Life with Gracie: Women leaders reignite own fire while helping girls find their way


Every Wednesday for eight weeks this summer, Ava Pittman rubbed elbows with some of the most successful and influential women Georgia has to offer.

Cpl. Angela Florence at the Columbus Police Department. Kathy Bruer, owner of Belles & Beaus Etiquette & Manners and Aflac retiree. Teresa White, the first woman and African-American to hold the title of president at Aflac.

They showed her what was possible. They encouraged her. They inspired her to be strong, to be smart, to be bold.

Their message wasn’t all that different from what Pittman, 13, had been hearing during her four years with Girls Inc., but now she was learning practical lessons about things the nonprofit only talked about: personal finance, entrepreneurship, table etiquette and college prep.

It might not have happened had it not been for White, founder of the Girls Inc. program she calls Bold Moves.

For years, White had been serving on various boards of directors, including the United Way and the River Center of the Performing Arts in Columbus. She’d also used her considerable influence and expertise to help women in her church and workplace find their place in the world. She helped them tweak their resumes to match jobs in which they were interested. She wrote letters of recommendation. She encouraged them to pursue their dreams.

Although not in a formal sense, she was a mentor through and through.

There were plenty of people who appreciated that about her, but White never quite felt she’d given back nearly enough.

“There was this monotony of getting up on Sunday morning, going to church, listening to the sermon, getting lunch with my husband, getting up on Monday and going to work again,” she said. “I felt very thankful for the opportunities I’d had, but I also felt ashamed because there was so much I could give to other young girls but hadn’t.”

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About the time she started to dream about the possibilities, Girls Inc. got wind of what she’d been doing and in 2015 presented her with its national Celebrating Women of Achievement Award at its annual luncheon in New York.

She appreciated the recognition but still wanted to do more. She began sharing her concerns with some of the women in her Aflac circle. Darcy Brito. Mary Ellen Keim. Mary Daniel. Laura Grantham.

By February 2015, they had a curriculum, a logo, and a name to match their dream — Bold Moves — and they agreed Girls Inc. would be the perfect place to give back.

By summer, they were ready to host the first class of girls ages 12-17, who gathered at a Girls Inc. campus in Columbus.

White was blown away. By the girls. By the caliber of volunteer businesswomen and community leaders who turned out to share their expertise.

This summer marked Bold Moves’ fourth year.

Not bad for a girl who many would’ve thought had no future.

Teresa White, after all, was the daughter of a single mom who couldn’t even afford to live on her own until White was a teenager. But with the help and guidance from her grandparents and members of the Dallas church she attended, she managed to stay focused, shaking off negative stereotypes of black girls.

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She graduated from high school in 1984 and then headed to the University of Texas at Arlington, where she earned a bachelor of business administration.

In 1988, the same year she graduated, she married her college sweetheart James White and moved to Fairbanks, Alaska, and then to Columbus, where she eventually joined Aflac.

But she never forgot all the people who’d helped shape her along the way, people who helped her find her voice, build her coding skills, and who steered her away from danger.

“I’ve just always had people around me who were willing to put something in me, who helped me find myself,” she said. “Sometimes it was things they said I shouldn’t do, or go in that direction, or follow that trend.”

Her memory of them and the role they played in her own success weighed heavily on her in 2014, when she realized she needed to do more to uplift her community.

Had it not been for them pushing her to do her best, modeling for her a strong work ethic, her meteoric rise at Aflac might not have happened at all.

Now, with help from another circle of women, she hoped to inspire another generation of girls to meet their full potential.

“This is about making sure these young ladies aren’t intimidated by what life puts in front of them,” White said.

To date, Bold Moves has touched the lives of some 90 girls in the Columbus/Phenix City, Ala., area. And that’s not all. White has also expanded her outreach to her church, St. James AME, so men and women are able to earn their GED and attend a local technical college.

This year was Ava Pittman’s first attending Bold Moves.

“It was a good opportunity for me, especially being around girls who build you up,” she said.

What she won’t likely forget anytime soon, Pittman said, is “just because you’re a woman, doesn’t mean your future is limited.”

And as is always the case when we give, the benefits extend to the giver as well.

“I thought I’d teach the girls something, but it’s been the complete opposite,” Brito said. “It’s helped me to remember the big dreamer I was as a little girl and tell the little girl in me, you can do it, too. They have reignited a fire in me and influenced me to be a better me. I have Teresa to thank for that.”

Listening, White thought about that for a moment.

“That just fills my cup,” she said.

Find Gracie on Facebook (www.facebook.com/graciestaplesajc/) and Twitter (@GStaples_AJC) or email her at gstaples@ajc.com.



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